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[quote=Anonymous]Try and step back and think about WHY he wants the house. Same for you - WHY do you want to be a SAHM?  What is the emotion or core belief that is underlying each of those (e.g. If I had to guess, its about money.  How do each of you perceive money/wealth? Something to be pursued? Something to be enjoyed? Something that is the result only of hard work and sweat? Something that is a matter of status?  Something that is embarrassing?).  Are the reasons each of you are offering really cover stories for something that each of you hasn't been able to put into words?  You're telling yourself a story about why you want to be a SAHM and scanning your relationship and lifestyle for the justification.  Recognize that you're doing the same thing in your perception of his focus on the new house - telling yourself a story about what his motivations are/aren't for that.  Couples counseling....or one just for you so you can communicate your needs differently, might be of use.

As I read over this I realize it is really psycho woo-y...I am not in that field and have generally been allergic to these types of exercises.  Turns out they're really helpful and enlightening.[/quote]

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