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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is pretty weird, too, but people can do what they want. Don’t feel bad RSVPing no. They invite. You get to choose if you attend. [/quote]

I agree with this. They certainly have a right to do and I have a right to say no with no judgement.

I see both sides.

I had a good girlfriend who came to my small destination wedding when she was single. Fast forward several years and she is now getting married OUT OF STATE which would require me to be gone probably 2 nights due to it's location,  and expects me come - but no kids are invited. Um, I have 2 small children so I tell her regretfully I can't make it. She is upset. Say what???? She says "can't someone just watch your kids?" I was flabbergasted. Uh, no. We have no family in the area, they are LITTLE, like both under 3, and my husbands  job is such that he works hours that make it impossible to care for 2 little kids, one of whom isn't even in daycare. The cluelessness and utter obtuseness were astounding. I sent a nice gift and didn't lose a moment of sleep over it. [/quote]

Are you serious? You had a destination wedding and have the gall to complain that she got married “OUT OF STATE”? [b]I hope she dropped you as a friend because this is such an incredibly entitled way of thinking and I can’t bekieve you’re painting her as the obtuse party. You are saying that because you had kids first, your time and presence is more sacred than hers. Ugh. I can’t stand people like you.[/b] [/quote]

This. I am a parent of a toddler and I don't get why becoming a parent makes some people so incredibly entitled. Get over yourself pp. And you too OP. [/quote]

I think PP is just saying that her friend shouldn't be surprised or upset that she can't come.[/quote]

Her friend should be! She made a major sacrifice to travel to PP’s destination wedding, and PP wouldn’t even try to make a similar sacrifice. Definition of selfish and entitled. [/quote]

It’s just not the same. Once you have kids — esp if you’re not quite well off — sometimes the logistics don’t work anymore. We took a lot of crap from my family about not going to my grandma’s funeral, which was unexpected and one week after my c-section. We had 2 other under 4 year olds and I was BFing. My DH had work, I couldn’t drive and my baby was only 7 days old anyway. The funeral was 8ish hours drive or 2 hour plane ride + 1 hour drive away. It was just impossible and we took so much shit for it. It’s not like I didn’t want to go.[/quote]

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