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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a cousin who sexually abused me when I was a child - he was older and would babysit me. We see him at family gatherings. I am polite but would never let my children be around him out of my sight.

I'm not saying this is the right approach. It just is what it is, and I actually think this is very common. I have other friends who were abused by family members they are around all the time. This happens in families. And I would just say you should do what you feel is right. [/quote]

Sorry this happened.  What do you tell your kids? I ask because we are in a similar situation I am thinking bout telling my kids that so and so is not a safe person---so not only are they never alone with them, but also they know that this person is not safe. [/quote]

Don’t do this. By being around this person at all, you are sending your kids the message  that the emotional state you will be in around this person is normal. It isn’t. And giving them the information that the person is “unsafe” with no explanation of how...it’s awful. Something happens anyway and the kid will feel like it was his/her fault even more so—they were warned, after all! Just do not.[/quote]

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