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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you invited him and make him feel comfortable?  There is clearly more to the story.  My husband's ex went out of her by to keep the kids from him and try to replace Dad with her boyfriend. Clearly the dynamic changed when you got married, so what's really going on with you, your husband and Dad? You all need to try harder for your daughter.[/quote]

Invite him to what?  I don't throw parties.  For my daughter's birthday she usually has sleepovers.  Your story is different than mine.  I do not try to replace my daughter's dad with my husband.  My husband isn't her dad, but a good male role model in her life.  My daughter spends a good portion of her time with her dad every week.  I've tried talking to him but he will not talk to me. [/quote]

Have you offered to pay? I'm cuban and people start planning and discussing these parties over a year before they happen. Taking dance lessons and such. Text him if he won't call you. [/quote]

No I have not offered to pay.  I will think about doing so but at this moment I don't want to reach out to him because 1. I'm not invited so I'm not going to pay 2. I know what his response will be "no, i'm good" and 3. I don't want to ask him to invite me.  This is all new information to me.  Originally they were just going to have dinner with immediate family which I thought was nice but now its turned into an actual quinceanera.

There will be no church services just a reception and my daughter doesn't want to have "damas or chambelanes" or do a dance other than the one with her dad.  She wants a DJ and dance floor and will dance but doesn't want a choreographed dance.  [/quote]

OP I bet he ends up inviting only his family.  And it sounds pretty low key. Your daughter needs to talk to him about the plans. If you and your husband get invited fine, if not it shouldn't bother you. We did our own things with our family, never with exes or their family. No one expected, or wanted that.

You could plan something with your side on a different weekend. Or wait until her high school graduation. Your daughter should probably keep her conversations with dad to herself.

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