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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound petty, sorry. Are you planning this stuff and inviting people? It sounds like you are. If so, some of this is a bit of hosting. The rest of it, I could care less is omelne takes my old towel. [b]I always bring extra stuff [/b]b/c that’s my deal, another friend pays more often, and others are fun and we like having them, my kids are easier, etc. Overall, it all evens out. I don’t think you feel that way at all - you sound like a principal. Wby don’t you send some reminder texts or something? Really, you’re already halfway there so go whole hog. [/quote]

Newsflash, defensive moocher: asking your friends if they want to meet up to go skiing does NOT mean you then need to outfit them in ski gear for the occasion. FFS. [/quote]

Yeah, no. I clearly stated that I always bring extra stuff.  Learn to slow down and read. But if I was going to get as worked up and bent out of shape as easily as you and OP do, I would A. stop inviting people to casually do stuff I did not trust to have all their items ready themselves, or B. do stuff alone because I am a raging control freak. If you really go around ruminating about your extra mittens for years, you just aren't the lets all go skiing type unless you have pre-vetted the situation. Know who you are and work with that. Not everyone is like you, with a super clean house and it all organized, and seriously, thank goodness because you sound like a massive PITA.[/quote]

NP, but you started this by calling the OP petty, then doubled-down by calling PP a massive PITA. I am not in the business of buying friends with bar tabs and beach towels. I've worked hard for the money I have, and when I decide to spend some of it I do so deliberately. I buy what I need and keep track of those things. It's called being responsible. I'll gladly throw my credit card down to split dinner without a second thought of who ate what, but I'm not buying everyone's drinks at a bar if I've long stopped drinking myself because you think that pays for the fact I went home with your beach towel once (which, BTW, I would never do). This is not friendship. If you (or others in this thread who take peoples' things and then don't give them back) are so rich that you have total disregard for the fact that these things you take cost your friends money, then count your blessings...and trudge over to the ski shop to pay for your foolishness in the form of mittens at a ridiculous mark up just so your kid can go ski.

Now watch, you're probably going to call ME cheap.[/quote]

I posted previously about sometimes forgetting a diaper or my kids losing gloves. We do have a seven figure income and while I may absolutely terrible at returning Tupperware or your salad bowl, I more than make up for it in other ways.

We have a housekeeper who does our dishes and laundry. I honestly wouldn’t know what is ours or others. I know I buy multiples of gloves and hats because my kids are always losing them.

I do think OP is petty about friend taking her beach towel on a trip. We have been to the beach where someone is missing a swimsuit, shovel, boogie board, towel, whatever. I buy or give items to friends and vice versa. If we traveled and borrowed, we return item at the end of the trip. And if you bought my kid a shovel and bucket, we would always reciprocate and it would a bigger gesture.[/quote]

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