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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's five days. It's a family vacation. The inlaws are "fine" according to the OP. She has 360 days in the rest of the year to be alone.

I don't see why there is a problem. OP has other issues with her inlaws she's not telling us. Because otherwise she's coming across as overbearing (ironically, given what she said about her MIL).

You either want good family relationships or you don't. And it's clear OP isn't interested in having good relationships with her inlaws. The MIL is probably viewing this trip as a great family bonding time and an opportunity to build memories for the grandkids and to spend quality time with each other. Think about that. Maybe humor her for five days and make her happy?

But I predict this will happen instead. You will be cold and withdrawn with hints of resentment. Your MIL doesn't understand it. It makes her unhappy. She feels trip has been ruined. Everyone goes home unhappy. And you'll twist it against MIL and blame it on her because it cannot ever be your fault.

OP, grow up. Be an adult. Stop making this about you. We do things for family members because it's family. [/quote]

Surely she sees her in-laws other times during the year, so it's not just 5 days out of the year.  And OP is fine.  She plans to go, she understands why it makes sense, and she wants it to go well -- which is why she posted.

This is a normal situation, and is not a crazy request of the grandparents.  With that said, OP is a tagalong.  The trip is for the benefit of the grandparents; OP didn't even have input into what and where.  So of course OP is not super-excited -- her interests are last priority in this situation.  Again, it's not a crazy plan, but is does take a certain amount of self-abnegation on OP's part (welcome to motherhood...).

Generally, I do find the entitlement of a lot of Boomer grandparents to be a little absurd.  Grandkids do not exist to provide them with fulfillment or entertainment.

With that said, OP's IL's were smart enough to get a spacious place with a 'wing' for OP's family.  That bodes well.
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