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[quote=Anonymous]Something similar happened to me a year and a half ago.  DH was out of town for an extended period for a work project and developed a flirtation with another woman.  She texted him one night inviting him over and he immediately went over and slept with her.  After finding out, I made him move to an extended stay hotel for a few months and really thought we'd get divorced but... here we are.  We've seen a counselor, which has helped a lot.  DH was extremely remorseful (he would randomly call me crying saying how awful he was and how I deserved better).  It even got to a point where I was worried about him because he was so depressed about the situation.  Yes, I realize the irony, he cheats, and I'm concerned about him.

I wouldn't say I've completely forgiven him nor would I say I completely trust him.  I made him give up drinking because he was drinking a lot at that point of his life.  I don't know if he would have engaged in a friendship/flirtation had he not been out with a group drinking a lot every night or if he would have gone over there had he been sober.  Perhaps, but the drinking didn't help his judgement.  I don't know if I'll ever respect him the same way I once did either.  But, ultimately, is it really worth breaking up our family, putting our kids through a divorce, throwing out our almost 20 years of shared history, over one stupid decision that occured over one night?  I don't think so.  It would be different if there was an extended relationship or a pattern of cheating.

Your DH is obviously regrets what he did or he wouldn't have told you.  If he wanted to continue cheating, he would have kept it a secret.  I wouldn't make any decisions just yet.  You should see a counselor together and separately and see how you feel in six months.  [/quote]

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