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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  My relationship with my daughter has always been extremely close, possibly too close in that she always wanted to come home frequently during her college years.  At this point I make a point to chat with her a couple of times a week, and she’s become independent in a healthy way.

We communicate very well, so she’s told me that she’s uncomfortable with some of what she considers to be out-of-the-mainstream sexual behaviors (e.g., we have an aunt who’s polyamorous).  We talk openly about this, and I can only reiterate that they are who they are.

Re: the earlier comment about cops seeing things out on the street, this was a guy bragging about having committed violence against non-violent offenders—out of the way of prying community eyes—and this is something he chose to bring up years later as a talking point.  That, to me, is worrisome.  It’s along the lines of him having physically abused someone in an alleyway because he didn’t like the social behavior of the young guy.[/quote]

Hi OP, 19:35 here from yesterday. Thanks for responding. I had to look up polyamorous. I know I'll get slammed for this, but that's a pretty messed up lifestyle, and not at all in the same category as LGBTQ. Your daughter doesn't have issues with gay people; she just has a working value system. Good lord OP, you made it sound like she was homophobic. I can see why your daughter is craving a more conservative/religious lifestyle if you've been teaching her that being polyamorous is a choice to embrace.

The behavior you're describing re FFIL is extremely disturbing. However, your daughter can't change that and she might realize that she doesn't want to engage in a losing battle. Let go of her FFIL's behavior. Focus on maintaining a close relationship with your daughter. Your engaging with her FFIL won't end well. Don't give your daughter or her husband a reason to distance themselves from you. And in case your daughter's fiance turns out to be more like his dad, you want to provide a safe place for her to land without fear of you telling her I told you so. [/quote]

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