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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did you marry him?[/quote]

He is a very kind person, smart, similar core values (ethics, morals, etc), very supportive of my careeer, we have good chemistry, he’s not bad to look at  either.[/quote]

I'm married to the same "brilliant at work or school (i.e. one trick pony)" ManChild. 
I am 100% sure he has untreated ADHD - he forgets things, is unorganized, doesn't listen, blocks people out, can't see urgent matters right in front of him (door slam on childs finger, backs up vehicle & hits 3 yo), half @sses stuff around the house, brain goes AWOL while driving and misses exit ramps we do weekly, etc.etc. The hyperactivity side is his constant pacing around like a nervous wreck, or his waking up at 4 or 5am to do nothing, jittery legs, brain is always elsewhere something fierce. Never present. Never.

IT's heredity. His father is the same way, called the Absentminded Nutty Professor. now at age 75 people think it's dementia but he's been that way the last 10 years I've known him. The mother has to leave notes taped up all over the house. Steps 1-5 leaving the bathroom, Leaving the house, Cleaning the kitchen, Locking up the house, etc. It's asinine. 
His youngest brother has it worst of all - can't hold down a job, says socially improper stuff all the time to family/friends/new coworkers, won't finish a 1 year grad program now in year 4, can't keep a girlfriend, terrible with money so Mom does everything there, constantly getting bailed out by the parents, and has a weird co-dependency with his parents too.

Would I ever bring it up to them? Hell no. They have an excuse for every setback they continue to suffer. They're delusional. The mom especially, she actually thinks a life of 2 steps forward, 1 step backwards every single day is normal. It's takes them 3x as long to do anything and usually 2 or 3 tries or redos. It's like NutsoVille visiting them.

Now I have to watch out that my kids have the ADHD. 2 nd or 3rd grade is when it would show up. Can they read or not? Sit still and listen? DO math? Follow multi-step orders?
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