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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you need to ask this question, you’re not meant to be a parent. You would have made sure there were kids in your life already.[/quote]

This isn't true and unfair.  I wasn't sure I wanted to be a mom, but I didn't want to wake up one day (like OP at 45) and wish I'd had kids.  I think 45 is too late...especially if your partner doesn't want children.  Even when I was pregnant I wasn't excited, I was full of nerve.  But now that my daughter is a few years older, I am so happy I took the leap of faith and became a mom.  She is my life.  It's not the same until it's your own child.  [/quote]

This is OP again: to be clear, I still don't want kids. I want to understand and appreciate what the feeling of wanting kids is like. I do not have that feeling myself. Curious about your experience - not trying to decide anything for myself.

(I think it is possible I will one day wake up and want grandkids. But, as I said above, I don't think that it would have been right to have kids only in order to increase the odds of having grandkids later. What if I had kids like me, who didn't want kids?)[/quote]

If you one day want grandkids, I encourage you to develop a grandparently relationship with a friends kids or grandkids. I so long for a bigger "family" community. I'm the only one of my siblings to have kids, and no one in my biological family really has developed a warm relationship with them and my husband's family is overseas (and also not warm.) I long for more loving adults in their lives, but we have moved to often to have developed those kinds of relationships as a family.[/quote]

This is OP - and I'm sorry you don't have that bigger family network. <3

I do try to be a good aunt to my nieces and nephews - we don't live nearby to them so we don't have that "hey bring the kids over on Saturday and we'll hang out for the day" sort of relationship. But I do hope that they will think of me and my husband as people they can turn to for fun, love, and advice as they grow up. And who knows what people will come into our lives, as time goes on. [/quote]

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