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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to give some support to the woman who dropped out of college. She was probably around 20, and hadn’t encountered that behavior before. I didn’t encounter it either growing up, I get that. When I did, it was a colleague. I was 40. She was such an abusive bully that I quit a job I otherwise loved. Once I got my wits about me, I was annoyed with myself for letting her drive me out. Sheer hatred too, for probably 2 years. By that point I had reestablished myself in a new job which I actually ended up liking a ton more than that first one. I think in retrospect I kind of had that “need my abuser” syndrome. I just lost perspective and gave her so much power. But I learned from the experience and that wouldn’t happen again, and it propelled me in a different and better direction. Now, many years out, I can see that it was more about her than me by a long shot. I also see that I acted like a doormat because she psychologically manipulated me and gaslighted me and I lost my confidence. I also concur with those who said it takes about 2 to 2.5 years to reach the apathy phase, and even thenyou can easily be triggered. My best recommendations are to not see, talk or follow them (on social media). Limit contact with people who are the bridge between you. Get therapy. Build up your confidence again and kind of zero in on only the people you know really care about you.[/quote]
I agree with all your advice and would add:  replace them with other, better people. [/quote]

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