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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, this is a thread about a couple adopting, not about birthparents.  Those of us who have adopted, are adoptees, etc. are telling you your choice of words is offensive to many of us.  I truly hope you never ever teach my child as I would be horrified at what you are saying and you have no idea the harm you would cause my child saying what you are saying.  You are also clueless to push open adoption without knowing each situation.  There are many ways to adopt and its not in all kids best interests to keep in contact with their birthparents.  I also find it interesting you only talk about the birthmother when there is also a birthfather and often other relatives.    Your post/rant has nothing to do with the original topic and is offensive.  You can advocate all you want in a world you do not know or understand but understand the harm you can do is far greater than the good.

First mother makes no sense.  Some birthmoms do parent.  Many do not.  Ours never did.  She is our child's birth mom.  She gave birth.  She never spent a day as the child's mother.  As a parent through adoption, I am not the second mother.

You are very anti adoption and should not be addressing kids given your "knowledge."

Likewise comparing adoption today to those done in the 50-60's is not even comparable. [/quote]

I disagree. I think the PP spelled it out wonderfully and is encouraging being inclusive with everyone affected in this less than ideal situation. I don't understand your bitterness or your claim that she doesn't understand as she has more experience than most.

There is a reason to focus on the mother, the baby lived inside of her and developed a connection. The birth mother had a huge affect on the child by what she did, what she ate, and her circumstances during the pregnancy. In turn, the baby irrevocably altered her biological mother's body, whereas the father contributed biological matter.

Back to OP, you sound like someone who will make a great parent and hope that it works out for you. 
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