Reply to How to handle unwanted gift from DH

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "How to handle unwanted gift from DH"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand that you're trying to be kind to your husband and see this in the best light for the sake of your marriage. But I don't understand why you think anything will change in your marriage terms of his ignoring your clearly-stated preferences for how he spends your joint money, if you don't communicate about this now. You are basically pretending everything is fine b/c his feelings will be hurt if you bring up what you ALREADY TOLD HIM, namely that you don't want the big-city-lots-of-people trip. Are you going to tell him after the fact that you didn't really want to do it? He's either going to get mad then (and more justifiably, since you didn't tell him while it was maybe still cancelable) or he's going to take it as justification for ignoring your wishes. "She said she didn't want it but I know she enjoyed it!" So for your next birthday, or whatever, he will do the same thing. And I doubt this is just an issue in terms of planning trips--if he gets his "feelings hurt" whenever you express yourself that has to be a totally suffocating marriage to be in.

Anyway, I would urge you to have an honest conversation with him. You are clearly a kind person so you will be kind in this discussion. If he's unable to deal with kindly-stated facts like "Honey I already told you I didn't want to go to New York with 8 other people, I wanted to go to the beach with just you and me," that is not your fault. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics