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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh honey.

Wait until the kid arrives.

You should have skipped the groceries (yes there are grocery stores open on Christmas morning) and found something ill-fitting to wear over there.  And then you open the can of whoop ass on him after you've shown up for Christmas Eve and checked that box.

I am being sincere when I say that if you're going to co-parent with a spouse with unmanaged ADHD, get ready to sort all the shit out on your own and manage where everybody is supposed to be and what needs to get done and nobody cares how the sausage gets made in between.  That is cold reality.  So plan around him and you will avoid arguments down the road.[/quote]

And for gods sake, treat that ADHD before the baby comes.[/quote]

In all honesty, 99% of crises are diverted because I plan and do everything in regards to household management. I make sure the bills are paid, there’s money in the accounts, meals are planned, his laundry and lunches are made and there’s groceries in the fridge. Honestly DH at the grocery store is a nightmare and our bills end up being $300+ because he gets distracted. I have come to not mind this, especially because DH is excellent at everything outdoors - he can fix anything, mows the lawn, does the yucky stuff like cleaning the gutters or taking the garbage out and household repairs.

I hold down everything inside the house. He manages everything outside. The dynamic has worked well. He was running other errands that day too: picking up last minute gifts, wrapping gifts, etc so in all likelihood he got distracted but it’s still frustrating as hell.

DH does not want to medicate his ADHD but our therapist has recommended diet and supplements that we are going to try. [/quote]

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