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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And to be clear (I’m 9:01), I was paying my own rent, phone bill, buying groceries, etc. as soon as I graduated. Got off my parents insurance when my sister graduated (since keeping me on was no more expensive as long as she was on it). I just don’t understand the people in this thread and would like to. [/quote]

This is OP. My concern isn't entirely focused on finances. That's part of it, because I do fear that this "long planned engagement" will turn into actually getting married once the ring is on and the bridal magazines come out. Its fun to plan a wedding and tempting to not wait.

But my bigger concern is about the age they are at. The brain is not fully developed until age 25.  At age 20, a kid has way too much growing to do to not entirely focus on themselves and developing who they are. Its a big step to consider "two" rather than "one" when going through all of that development.  It is a very, very long life, and the selfish period is incredibly and preciously short.

And without any extenuating circumstances (ie a pregnancy or something)...I don't understand the rush.[/quote]

You realize that until very recently, people got married at those ages all the time? If you go to our parents' or grandparents' generations, this was the norm, and the world somehow functioned.

Also, I knew at 20 I was going to marry my boyfriend (who was also 20) and vice versa. We did not get formally engaged until we were 23 and married until we were 25, but those were merely money/logistical issues. We have been married now for 15 years, have post-graduate degrees and good jobs, two children, and a good marriage. I do not see why getting engaged at 20 is the end of the world. [/quote]

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