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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
Thanks for all the input. I appreciate it. 
It was a shock.
No, she’s not pregnant.

I don’t disagree with him proposing. It just feels rushed. And why?

My husband and I are going to chat with him and ask him to just wait until September when he turns 21. And, we’re going to ask them to promise to finish college and have jobs with health insurance before they actually get married. 
We will be sure to approach it with support.

Just a huge shock.

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This is so dumb. They are adults. They don’t need to promise you anything. He wants to propose because it’s the holidays and he loves. Whether they marry tomorrow or in ten years, you saying nothing other than congrats and give support. You don’t get a say. Be pleased that he is in a healthy relationship with a loving partner and that they are happily living their lives. He survived growing up, apparently has not major drug or MH issues and has managed money well enough for a ring. Celebrate. They are adults and it is time to start treating him as such. Hugs all around and maybe a small engagement gift.

I married young and my mom pulled the same crap.  Guess how much it impressed us? Guess how much those promises meant, that we said to shut her up? His mom was actually supportive and loving. Guess where we spent most of our family time? [/quote]

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