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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m going to change my answer. My in-laws come for 2-3 days and my parents back off.

You can’t keep your mom away on Christmas! You can’t keep her away for a whole week! MIL needs to suck it up. Your mom needs to be part of Christmas Eve or Christmas Day.

I make sure kids have separate opportunities to open gofts from grandparents. For example my son’s BD was on a Thursday this year. He opened presents with my parents at our normally Wednesday dinner. He opened presents from us on his actual birthday. He opened presents from my in-laws on Friday night when my in-laws arrived for the weekend.

During the week when the kids are off school, plan events for each of your kids with your mom. This will allow MIL to have one on one time with each kid. 
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I'm not going to host 3 separate birthday parties - One for friends, one for my parents, one for in-laws just so that gifts can be opened separately.  I did this a few times and it became the birthday that would not end.  Thankfully no one insisted that it all be done separately.

If somebody really needs to have a separate party like that, they can host it.  [/quote]

Jesus, pay attention.  This isn't the MIL preemptively banning OP's mother.  This is OP's mother asking to see the MIL, and the MIL not being excited about it.  Where did OP mention a party?  Where did OP mention excluding her mother from Christmas?

You are saying that you are OK forcing a guest in your house to see someone they don't want to *solely* because that other person wants to see your guest.  That's rude AF.  [/quote]

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