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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Absolutely go.  Funerals are for everyone to pay respect to the deceased and support family members. You do not need an invitation for going for it because it is not a family Christmas party.

Go. Be unobtrusive.  Pay your respects. Send flowers, write a condolence card. Don't introduce yourself as anything but a friend. Maybe give a hug to the person and then leave.   This is a kind and humane thing to do - and has nothing to do with what your relationship is.

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um she is a STRANGER. My grandmother is about to die, and I'd be suuuuper weirded out if someone I met twice, or barely knew, came to the funeral or wake. you have no idea what the situation is - maybe there will be only a small number of people. Send flowers. Do not go to this funeral, not unless you make it a practice to go to funerals of family members of people you have met twice. [/quote]

All I can say is that if you get offended if someone you do not know well attends your grandmother funeral, then your upbringing has been seriously lacking in basic etiquettes.

It is never wrong to attend funerals for a short while and support people. Even you know them in a very peripheral manner - it is never overstepping if you attend the funeral for a short while. It is a very gracious thing to do. It is an occasion of sorrow and you have to be somewhat less than human to not show your humanity. [/quote]

People are private; funerals are family events.  If someone who is my GRANDMOTHER's acquaintance shows up -- perfectly fine.  If a dude (who I didn't invited) who I had been on two dates with showed up -- totally creepy.  If said dude sent me flowers or baked goods -- A+++. [/quote]

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