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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like it really depends. I can understand how it's awkward to ask "do you want me to go" to a guy that just lost his mother.

If he gave you the wedding details, including time and place, then that does sound like an invitation. You might, if possible, talk to him and gently sound as if you are making plans to attend, but then ask him if he is OK with that. Basically, start with the assumption that he wants you to attend and then give him the opportunity to react to it. [/quote]

This is horrible advice. Look, whether you have another date or not, you have been dating the man. Were I him and you didn't show, I would think "she has no interest." You don't need to make a fuss and you certainly don't want to be the center of attention. Introduce yourself as a friend of "Joe", express your sympathy and move on. Sit in the back of the church for the funeral but at the end of a pew so he sees and knows you attended. Don't go to the cemetery or the reception following if you are concerned that it makes you look clingy. If he says something about missing you there, just say that you needed to get back to work and you didn't want to be a distraction or pull him from family. You were concerned he'd be worried about you not knowing anyone, so you thought it was best. The last part won't likely come up, so most likely not an issue.[/quote]

Ugh, ugh, ugh.  A funeral is NOT a way to get a guy to ask you out on a 3rd date.  Seriously? He's not going to notice she's there, or it's going to be negative, or mildly positive.  [/quote]

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