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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I vote no because you didn't even know her. You go to a funeral to pay your respects. Not to tag along as someone's companion. It's not a wedding people.[/quote]

This is not correct.  I used to think the same, until my co-worker's dad died and I had the same question, and my boss set me straight.  You do not go to a funeral for the dead person, you go for the survivors.  I took a plane and rented a car and showed up at my co-worker's dad's funeral, and she still remembers.  This had to be circa 1996.

The surviving family member always remembers who showed up and who didn't.

Years after receiving this advice, my father died in 2001.  I still remember this family I didn't know well (knew them through my DH's business connection) showing up.  They moved years ago, but we still send them a holiday card with a note, and I still have a warm spot in my heart for them.[/quote]

You took a plane and rented a car to go to a coworker's father's funeral?  that's just ... weird, and totally not called for.  I mean, I work in an office with an average older age of workers, and if I did that, I'd spend all my retirement $$ and vacation time on strangers' funerals.  [/quote]

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