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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Financial instability can certainly wreck a marriage, but I'm not sure the person who doesn't work at all has the right to look down on the person who keeps getting jobs but then losing them.  Why not get a career now, and let him stay home with the kids?  If you love him and the kids love him and you're going to end up getting a job anyway, why blow up the marriage as well?[/quote]

This. OMG this. If the drinking is a proble then that needs to be addressed but it is pretty crazy to criticize him for not holding a job when you aren’t even trying to work. [/quote]

She's watching 2 kids under the age of 5.  That IS work.  Those kids aren't watching themselves.  God how I hate how destructive people can be to mothers.[/quote]

+1  Two kids under the age of 3 actually.   Definitely plenty to do at home.[/quote]

Maybe they need to switch roles - OP works and her husband takes care of the children.  Listen, I'm a mom and the breadwinner.  My job is to make sure my children are cared for both physically and financially.  Stop letting mothers and father off with partial responsibilities.[/quote]

If he can't hold a job, he may not be able to take care of 2 little kids, particularly one which the OP says is medically fragile.  You don't know the details.  The OP suggested her option was to go live with her parents and stabilize her situation.  Seems like a good one to me. The people shaming OP and asking her why she chose to have kids are terrible people.[/quote]

You don't know any details either.  while it may be true that this guy can't care for his children, let's not assume holding a job relates to being able to care for kids.  Plenty of women decide to give up tough office work, but we don't doubt their abilities to care for kids. By the way, when my DH lost his job (and it was rough going at the job), he put all his energy into the kids, our house, returning himself to stability, etc.

I'm not shaming OP, nor did I ask her why she chose to have kids.  I'm saying she needs to start considering different and creative options.[/quote]

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