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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Loser flags for me 
1. Doesn’t have a job, can’t keep a job, doesn’t have a vision of what they want to do with their career. Salary doesn’t matter to me, it’s about purpose, passion, and work ethic. 
2. Doesn’t know how to “adult” once they have been out of college 2-3 years. An adult goes to the dentist twice a year, keeps their car maintained and registered, gets haircuts regularly, buys their own clothes, can buy groceries and cook some basic meals, can manage a budget, etc.

I don’t think being close to your family of origin makes you a loser. If that is important to him and you don’t see yourself fitting into that dynamic, then you are not a good fit. I’m not close like that to my family, but I wouldn’t think of less of people that are close knit with their family. [/quote]

I would be curious to tease #1 out, especially the part of having a vision of where they want to go in life.  I am a guy, make good money but have no aspirations to being in the rat race and elevating to executive level.  I am happy to have a flexible job that provides me ample PTO during the year and gives me the flexibility to leave early to pick kids up, go to dr appts, etc.  I work hard at work and have reached a good level at a company.  Basically, my life outside of work defines me - not work.[/quote]

As someone married to a largely-absent workaholic, this would be fine with me.[/quote]

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