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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes to hiring household help/lawn service, etc.

However, I am strongly opposed to (any kind of)  nursing home if there are financial resources to support staying in the home.  I have watched three great grandparents die in very expensive "assisted living" facilities, and while the facilities were the best money could buy, and we did visit regularly, each elderly person seemed to suffer a marked decline upon leaving the home.  In each case, it was heartbreaking to take the elderly person from their home and move them in to the facility.  They didn't complain, but it was clearly traumatic, and I understand this.

My surviving parent will go into a home over my dead body.  I will do anything possible to keep him in his home when the time comes.  
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It's not like that all the time.  My Mom moved to a retirement community, and while it was a very tough initial adjustment for her, she has really adapted well.  I think the key for her was to downsize and move while she is still independent and mentally sharp. She stays busy with her friends, activities and visits from family. My dad had dementia and we had no choice but to put him into a dementia unit at a nursing home.  That was very, very tough but it was the absolute right decision for him because he needed a level of care that our family simply could not provide for him at home.[/quote]

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