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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would it be any of your children's business about HOW they were conceived?  "Sweetie, see, mommy was in the Missionary Position and daddy was …"  They are your children by DNA.  There is no medical reason at all for them to know the circumstances of their conception.[/quote]

Because infertility has become part of their identity they spent many years being infertile they don’t know how to put it away and our now forcing their emotions onto their kids.[/quote]

F*ck no, it is not about identity, it is MEDICAL INFORMATION!!!

1) IVF and other forms of ART are still pretty cutting edge it is entirely possible that 20 years from now we will learn that being conceived this way causes and increased risk of X and kids deserve to have that information.
2) IVF in a hetero couple means a history of infertility, which either means you had a diagnosed issue that could be passed to your children or grandchildren, or worse, you had and undiagnosed issue that could be passed on.  Not disclosing could lead your kid to be misdiagnosed later if the missing sympton is infertility and they have not yet tried to start a family and have no family history (that they know about).
3) No, children conceived “naturally” do not need to hear about the sex, but they also deserve information about their parents’ fertility, particularly girls.  I had only ever used condoms, we tried to get pregnant for 2 years and I decided to take a break and go on the pill.  When I stopped taking HBC, we got pregnant right away.”  That is a very different story from, “Oh, as soon as we stopped using condoms I got pregnant.”  It is also a different story from “I had an IUD but we got pregnant anyway.”  It is also a different story from, “Well, we never used birth control, but I did have 2 miscarriages before we had you.”  Each story of conception provides useful information that could lead to different choices for your DD and different diagnoses for some kinds of fertility or other health issues that arise later.

Basically, you need to grow up and realize that conceiving, carrying and deliverinng a child in any way is a major medical event that provides a lots of information about both reproductive health and overall health.  Your kid will likely need to make some medical decisions for you as you age and will certainly need to make their own reproductive and medical decisions and they deserve the best information possible to inform those decisions.[/quote]

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