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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have had the displeasure of discovering that my newly minted husband is lazy. He does work long hours at his job but after that he is useless. We recently moved into a new apartment and its been 2 months and he still hasn't unpacked 2 boxes full of his clothes, nor has he gone through and sorted through 2 other boxes full of his electronics and wires and odds and ends. In addition, he does not see dirt and disorder. He can live with a moldy shower and gross sink for years unless I specifically remind him to do his chores. I know it would be easy for me to just take on his chores but I do not want to end up like that. However, when I remind him that it is his turn to clean the bathroon he will get annoyed and huff and puff.

He is 30 years old.

I woke up at 6:00 am because I thought about all this and couldn't go back to sleep. This is very unattractive and I want out.[/quote]

This is the best advice you will get. Ignore it at your peril.

He will not change. You might be able to bug/annoy him enough to do the things you want but you will both end up resenting each other over it. It will become a pattern and it won't end well.

You have 3 choices:

1. Accept who he is and do what you want with this stuff. It's obviously not vital to him, so stuff it in a garage, shed, storage room, etc. Either clean the bathroom yourself or tell him you are hiring a cleaner to come in 2x/month and he's paying half (not sure how your finances work).

2. Tell him he has until (insert date but give him at least a week) before you throw it away/donate it to ______ .

3. Decide this is a deal-breaker and you made a mistake. There are no kids, so the impact should not be as dramatic. Learn from your mistakes and make sure you look for signs before tying the knot again.[/quote]

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