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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was it Jeffrey Dahmer or Charles Manson that said an unlocked door was like an invitation to come in? I think it was Dahmer. People absolutely do test doors to see if they're locked. [/quote]

Home invasions are extraordinarily rare. They happen but the odds of it happening to YOU, in suburbia are comically low. It is winning the bad lottery uncommon. [/quote]

And yet it happens and the consequences can be catastrophic.  Seems like locking the door is a very low level of effort to lower the odds even more.  Furthermore, there's a difference between a home invasion and a burglary.  Most burglars won't enter a house if they believe it is occupied but the ones who do are far more likely to be violent. Finally, the police in my area constantly admonish residents to lock their homes and cars and point to the many incidents in the local crime reports of unlocked cars being ransacked and the odd burglary that occurs when front doors are left unlocked. [/quote]

Are OP? I got into more details below. Your husband is bad at locking the door. I have ADD and while locking up at night doesn't cause me problems, I do have chronic issues that come up. I lose my phone constantly for instance. I frequently leave things in stores and have to painstakingly retrace my steps to find things.

You have set up a situation in your house where your husband is in charge of a thing he is clearly bad at. And instead of trying to rework the structure of the evening (you could take the dog out before going up and he could take the morning walk) you set him up for failure and then start a fight every time he forgets. Over something that is extremely unlikely to happen to you.

In our house we don't put the person who is bad at xx task in charge of xx task just so everyone can be perpetually unhappy about the situation. If your husband is generally a good contributor, then find a way to make it so he's not the one in charge of locking the doors every night. It is demoralizing to have a task that you are crappy at and get yelled at for when you are expectedly crappy at it. [/quote]

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