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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did not agree to 50/50.  I knew my ex well.  I used child support to negotiate. I agreed to dramatically less child support in exchange for primary physical custody. He had every other week end and four week over the summer.  [/quote]

This won’t work here. I make more money. I actually think this is part of why he wants 50/50 custody. I have to pay him child support no matter what our custody arrangements are. [/quote]
That is alimony.  Child support uses nights at each parent and other expenses to calculate.[/quote]

OP here. No, I make enough more than him that unless I have the kids almost full time I will still owe him some form of child support. We both waived the right to alimony. But I do think that he’s looking at the fact that I will pay him $50 a month if he has 40% custody and $500 a month if he has 50% custody and he’s using that to fuel his argument for 50% custody.

I still am not sure how he’s going to make this all work with work- he’s just going to tell them that he’s coming in and hour later ever other week since he has his kids and they’ll be okay with it? For years I asked him to have some flexibility with timing of this type of thing and he told me no “At 7:30 I’m the last one to the office.” And now all the sudden he says he can just come and go as needed? How long does this grace from work last?[/quote]

Now just imagine if the situation were reversed, and dad was trying to avoid paying more support.[/quote]

GTFOH with this. DCUM eviderates the OP regardless of gender. [/quote]

Really?  Perhaps OP needs to consider the flip side. It seems to me (female) that OP is trying to avoid paying the other $450.  Maybe I'm wrong.

Her soon to be ex doesn't need to prove anything to her.  If he's an unfit parent then say so - to the court.

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OP here- Geeze Louise people. Have I said ANYTHING here about either avoiding or not wanting to pay child support? Good Lord. I’ll pay whatever is needed depending on our situation. And if you go back and actually READ my original post you’ll see that I’m trying to make my heart line up with what my brain already knows- that my soon to be ex-is making a huge push and try to make this work at 50/50 so I’m trying to accept it into my heart and as my reality. I am just wondering if this push is coming from a desire to actually 50/50 parent or a desire to keep his own lifestyle closer to where it currently stands given the fact that when we were married he never was willing to really 50/50 parent despite me asking him to. [/quote]

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