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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I started dating it wasn't difficult at all explaining the parenting dynamic. Most people I was dating were also divorced parents. I was 37 with 2 kids, 6 and 3.  I had them all the time except every other weekend.

So I dated on those "every other weekends" and sometimes found time to go out for lunch or for coffee during a weekday. Phone calls.

As some PPs pointed out, just having every other weekend was more freedom than I'd had. I'm the first to say that my kids came in as most important. But part of being a good parent is having some boundaries and self-care. Ultimately I found dating (in my personal time) very rewarding.

I wasn't looking to remarry but fastforward and I'm very happily remarried. We dated for several years. The most challenging part was the years of not seeing each other as much as we wanted due to our respective parenting schedules. Also, we did not introduce our kids to our partners for a year after dating. [/quote]

This! Especially about self care. I think many times single parents use my kids come first as a shield. I’m glad my sister had a chat with me about my attitude towards dating. In my case I wanted to marry again. How could I properly vet a guy if I only saw him 2-3 times a month?  I learned to skip a yoga class here and there. Compromise.  He didn’t meet my kids for about a year of dating , not just grabbing coffee and having sex.  They got the know each other little by little. 9 years later we’re all very happy together. [/quote]

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