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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 29 and my DH is 59. A major age gap I know but I think it works for us because I am an old young person. I also don't want children and wouldn't have trusted a guy my age to not change his mind down the road (ironic I know). DH already has BTDT with kids and he definitely wont ask me for kids so it works both ways.[/quote]

Ok, to each their own, if you are happy great. You should think of this as your first marriage, as he will be dead unless you are much sicker than him. Or you might love being alone and still able to do things, I mean you are 29, so who knows what life will bring. As you are 29, you might think you know everything, we all did, but the reality is we were all still pretty naïve and dumb at that age. And you might never want kids, I got married younger and didn't think about kids at all. Like zero thought... and then I did.  Wanted, wanted to have baby, and never thought prior about having a baby at all! I was that driven studying, working, thought about going for PhDs, research, and then I was just dying to have a baby. Why, no idea, it just happened. I looked at the kid in a grocery store and I wanted one. We are still pretty animalistic deep down, that is what I think. Even my friends who knew me asked me later on, how did I have kids, I never said never, but I never, ever mentioned kids, nor was I in any way "maternal." Even now, I adore my kids, older teens, but I am not really fond of kids, even though I worked with kids. If anything, working with kids made me realize I need to find a different job! Which I did![/quote]

So amazing how when a woman says she doesnt want children, she gets bingoed with 'You'll change your mind". Would you say the same if PP was a 29yo man?
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I think you lack reading comprehension. I clearly wrote that she might never, ever want kids. Where did I say YOU WILL change your mind? Nowhere. But, I wrote what I have seen happen to me and to many other women. We who are a bit older have been there, done that. At 29 you have no idea what you will want or not want at 35. The only reason 29 year old, male of female is making such categoric statements is that they know what they want at 29, but have no clue what they want at 40, or even at 30. Not a single thing I wrote is wrong no matter the gender. You do realize that you might see 100 men who told you they are never having any more kids... and then they marry again and have 3 more kids, right? Mind is not set till death.[/quote]

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