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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, OP, but I would think our lives are too different that we would not find that much in common to connect over.

For example, the explanation: "different areas for the different kids " jumps out at me because I purposefully have two kids sharing a small room in a bunkbed because I think it's great to share a bedroom with a sibling because it helps foster flexibility, a close relationship, etc.  To purposefully design large spaces for each child goes against what is important to me.

Furthermore, the fact that you have your children in public school also jumps out at me, because just about the only thing I will spend "extra" $$ on is:  education.  I have both my kids in private schools and we scrimp and save to do so.  Education is our highest priority so spending $$ on a large house and yet going with tax-subsidized "free" education seems like an anomaly to ME.

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Holy judgy judge, batman.

OP, [b]I think the posters saying this type of thing are really jealous.[/b]

I do like the PP who stated "what does your house/wealth have to do with me?" - because that PP gets it.  Not all of us are the same, and that is okay.  In fact, of the friends I have, those with the biggest houses do have the best parties!  They don't expect people who "live differently than them" (code for smaller house or whatever PPs are trying to get at) to reciprocate, and definitely do not "compete" in any way.  The friends with the bigger houses are busy with their own lives, and are less judgy, so there is that. [/quote]

I'm not the PP you're quoting but I see her POV much more clearly than OP's -- I honestly cannot fathom being jealous of a person for having a 15k sq ft house.  4k, maybe -- seems like plenty of room for everyone.  In my dream neighborhood?  On the water?  Has a pool?  Big lot with a nice garden?  Sure I can see being jealous of any number of things about someone's house.  But a 15k sq ft house isn't something I want or even understand, and I wouldn't be jealous of it.  It's like moving into an airport -- okay there's definitely room for everyone but it's not even functionally a house in my mind at that point, [b]your kids are in their separate wings not interacting with you or each other; what's the point?  [/b]

That said if OP loves it good for her, but jumping straight to "all my haters just jealous" when she came here to find out [i]why [/i]people are uncomfortable with her display of wealth is not helpful to her at all.  People are making assumptions about her values (see PP's above talking about education vs. square footage), her background, and her level of tact based on the house.  She might not make any changes to her life based on that information, but at least she has it now.  Just telling her "everyone's jealous of you" is not true.[/quote]

LOL.  Speaking of inaccurate assumptions......[/quote]

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