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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't give into this trendy bullshit. Tell your child he or she is beautiful the way he or she is. Tell your child that boys can wear pink and girls can wear camo. Don't encourage them to disassociate from their bodies. It is parents' job to help children to love themselves as they are and to help them reach their dreams from a place of reality, not a place of delusion. Help your child have the courage to be a feminine male and be proud of himself and live in the real world with a healthy body, not one crippled by sterility and ill-health from estrogen. Stop the madness, seriously. [/quote]

Serious question though. What if the trans kid in question (born male and claims to identify as female) already embraces the things you have outlined and isn't looking to wear pink or high heels. In fact, this 19 year old transgender person I know is maybe one of the more masculine kids I've met, does not shave facial hair, and thinks it's a ridiculous question when his mom asked if he planned to "present as a woman" (i.e., is he going to start wearing skirts or makeup or shaving his facial hair?...or are we all just supposed to start calling him "her" when he doesn't do anything to help the visual along?) The answer was "mom that's ridiculous! I'm not suddenly going to become a different person with different tastes. It's just that now I'd like you to address me as "she" and "her" and use my new name "Laura" instead of "Mike". WTH is she supposed to do with that???[/quote]

She could call the kid Laura and try to use the pronouns the kids prefers. It's unusual, but it's not harmful and it doesn't have to be permanent. Teenagers love conflict and feeling like their parents don't understand. One way to deal with that is to avoid conflict and go along with the kid on things that aren't harmful--and pronouns and preferred names don't strike me as harmful.[/quote]

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