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[quote=Anonymous]I completely understand where you are coming from. Prior to getting married and after marriage, DH knew my dream was to be a stay at home mom. He supported that idea up to the point where baby #1 was born and then he changed his mind - he did not want the pressure of being the sole bread winner. That change floored me at the time.. and it took me awhile to get over the sense of betrayal... that he went back on the bargain we had decided on. I won’t promise that it was easy, but at the end of the day I had to adjust. I work in a less intense career that is very family friendly, and I don’t earn a ton, but this was the compromise we came to. I had to give up my dream, and there are still days I am a bit sad about that, but I have managed to come up with some new dreams...

As others have suggested, perhaps there is a middle ground. Planning out the timeline, making sure finances are in order, exploring all job options for both of you, exploring down sizing or moving, etc. And somewhere in there you have to try to let go of the future you envisioned, and try to come up with some new dreams based on the new future you are planning.[/quote]

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