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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just ask him. Regardless of why he did it, chatting up a completely random other family and not sitting with his own family is rude and I would present it like that.

If this happened to me this is what I would say:

"Hey Bob, what was the deal at the ice cream shop the other day? I was kind of hurt you didn't sit and chat with Lucinda and I and the whole thing seemed weird? How do you know the girl working there? Is she family? Who was the boy you were talking with? The whole thing was just confusing and I was expecting you to sit with us once we saw each other. Can you shine some light on the situation for me?"[/quote]

This interrogation is a bit much.

Just mention to BIL how good it was to see him at the ice cream shop when your sister is in the room.  See what happens.[/quote]

ALL of the suggested interrogations in this thread are a bit much. "What was her name, Larlo? WHAT WAS HER NAME?"

OP, what do you want to actually get out of this situation? To get your sister to believe her husband is cheating even though -- let's be honest -- you don't have any evidence of it? I admit it all sounds a bit odd but you really have evidence of nothing, yet you seem to be aware that you could make nothing into "something" especially by the way you describe your sister's temperament. So if that's your goal, have at it, just be aware that you're insinuating with virtually no concrete information.

If your goal is "the truth," you might as well forget the whole thing. If he's having a real affair with the girl at the ice cream shop, he's not going to admit it. If he's just friendly with her and hoped to have a flirty conversation to remind himself of his youth while he got a scoop of chocolate, he's not going to admit it. If he felt sheepish that you caught him cheating on his diet and gym routine while he was on the verge of ordering an XXL Banana Split, he's not going to admit it.

If you fire up the Spanish Inquisition like so many here are recommending, he's just going to say, "huh? What are you talking about? I did say hi to you. We talked for several minutes, don't you remember? I was there getting an ice cream treat for myself after finishing mowing the lawn. The girl behind the counter? Who? Don't really remember her." And what's your response? "But you seemed like you knew her!" "Well you know how extroverted I am." "But what about the boy?" "What boy? Oh that kid who asked me what color sprinkles I liked best? What about him?" "Why didn't you sit with us?" "I was sitting at the table right next to you but you were glaring at me so much I didn't know what to say!"

If it were me, I'd keep an eye on him, but you really don't have enough info to act on.[/quote]

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