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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It could be, as another person suggested, untreated adult ADHD because what you're describing is an awful lot like what my DH was like before he got treatment. It could also be sleep deprivation, because it also sounds a lot like what I was like when we had two little kids and I wasn't getting enough sleep.

It is not uncommon for someone who had managed their undiagnosed or untreated ADHD ok before kids to completely lose it once kids enter the picture. Kids change everything and make it that much harder. Is it possible your DH is dealing with this?

How is everyone's sleep? Yours, your DH's, your kids? I know it's a thing now, but I really am horribly forgetful and disorganized when I'm not getting enough sleep. I also need a lot of sleep - 9 hours a night is barely enough for me.

The second time my DH ran off somewhere without his wallet, I put a basket on a table in our entry way, told him it was for his wallet and keys, and that (mostly) solved that problem. It took some time for him getting used to using it, but it's second nature for him now. Could you do something like that for your DH & his badges, etc?  I know, you shouldn't have to mother him, but sometimes we don't see things that can help ourselves (my DH makes sure my car has an umbrella and an ice scraper in it, because while I can remember to make sure the kids have boots that fit as we get near winter, I forget to check to make sure my ice scraper hasn't gotten lost/broken and I still have a functioning umbrella in my car).

Your DH is gone a weekend that makes extra work for both of you. Can he quit the reserves?

When you are both home for the weekend, what does your DH do? You've described what you do, but not what he does. 
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It’s untreated misery is what it is, but go ahead try to throw a diagnosis and a pill at it.[/quote]

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