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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm wondering if there's not a huge backstory with SIL2.  Not with OP, but maybe with OP's brother.  Maybe SIL2 continuously complains to her DH about his sister (op) and that how his family likes SIL1 much better - that they leave SIL2 out, that SIL2 probably feels like a 3rd wheel every time they go out and that's why she doesn't go.

I bet OP's brother (SIL2's DH) told his wife that she's imagining it, that she is liked equally by his family and that she is crazy for thinking that.  And maybe even went on to say that if she had a problem with his family, that she needs to talk to his sister directly and straighten it out.

Then the party happens.  SIL2 sees this as a very clear indicator that she was right and that her DH was wrong.  She says something to her DH (probably during the party or right after) like, "see? Now do you believe me? your sister throws Larla this great party and did you see the gift?  you could tell she put a lot of thought into it.  For me? A gift card."  Her Dh probably told her to talk to his sister about it if her feelings are hurt. Her DH probably thought that his sister was doing it unintentionally and would listen to his wife and it would all be straightened out.

So, that's what SIL2 did.  And BAM!!!!!!! Sh!t hit the fan when SIL2 pulled Op aside to quietly discuss it.[/quote]

That's a plausible scenario. Regardless of the backstory, I think OP acted poorly. SIL2 told her privately and discretely that she felt hurt by the disparity. OP made it a thing. Too big a thing.[/quote]

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