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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Title IX protects her housing through her pregnancy.

The Housing office can help with housing after that.

She will qualify for WIC and SNAP.

I assume you were planning on paying room and board while she is in college. Off campus housing could be cheaper and she can apply for WIC/SNAP, all of that money can go towards her child's food and diapers.

As a single mother she can supplement WIC/SNAP with local food banks.  (https://www.foodpantries.org/)

The school can help her find cheap/subsidized daycare or she can check this website for subsidized daycare (https://www.acf.hhs.gov/occ/resource/ccdf-grantee-state-and-territory-contacts#M)[/quote]

Not being snarky— I think it’s great the people are being reassuring for OP.  But it IS a big deal.  Raising a baby will limit her kid’s future chances and make her a lot harder than it otherwise would be.

And it’s great to point out resouces. But let’s get real.  How many of us want our kids and grandkids on WIC/SNAP, not always able to afford milk and healthy food, plus whatever the foods has when that funds it 2 weeks into the month?  To have our grandkids raised Secion 8 housing? To have our grandkids in cheap childcare— which is almost always substandard.

I work with low income populations.  And there is a social safety net.  But despite the rhetoric, it is not luxurious.   And there are a lot of holes.  And the piece that would concern me the most is that good quality child care is $$$$$.  It just is.

I don’t mean to be discouraging.  But OP and her kod need to get real about the financial and time commitment involved with raising a kid below the bare minimum, subsistence level. Because none of us would want our grandkids eating bologna and hotdogs for days on end or our kid living on ramen, because cheap. Or going to a sketchy daycare.

They need to be realistic now, while there are still options.  And I’m not just saying while she can have an abortion— although realizing how much she would have to sacrifice might make Op’s Kid rethink.   For example, maybe Op’s Child needs to not go back to her school, to transfer, live at home to save money, and work and save as much as possible before the baby comes.  If there is a daycare at her school, it probably has a long waitlist, and she needs to apply immediately.  She can’tait until spring, and assume it will all come together somehow.

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I understand your point. But girls like OP are not the population that you deal with. She is a UMC educated girl who got pregnant. If OP can just mourn the loss of the imaginary future she thought she could have she can still support her daughter through college without much more money than she is putting out now.

OP's daughter will graduate with a 3 year old who will qualify for Head Start. At that point she can start getting child support and if the father's parents are not freaks she will never have to buy clothes ever.

She won't need to use sketchy daycare because there are grants to help with that.

She needs to GRADUATE! That is the #1 priority.

She is not aborting. I am pro-choice and that means when somebody chooses not to abort we accept that.

BTW if she wants to be a nurse she can get a scholarship and also there are so many scholarships for single moms.

Stop saying what if, we know she is having a baby, now get everything in order for her to get back to school Fall of 2019 with 3 semesters left to go.

I am sure OP's daughter was moving home after graduation anyway like every other kid in the world. You are going to say NO now she has a child, don't be daft.

It's hard but it's not really that  hard. [/quote]

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