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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was laid off at work and am currently looking for another job (if it matters I'm typically an executive with a desk job).  I have a 15mo DS and am pregnant with my second.  My husband is able to support our family comfortably but I like working and generally planned to do it.

With my current time off I was kind of hoping I'd love being home and decide I just want to stay home until the new baby is 1 or so.  This would relieve the stress of trying to find a job before I look too pregnant as well as the toughness of going back to a job that I don't have a long track record at right after maternity leave with all the exhaustion and pumping that entails.

Day to day I kind of hate being home though - not the time with DS (though I struggle with how to feel our time after we have gone on an outing or two already that day) but the relentless of cleaning up after him.  I hate washing his high chair tray and the floor etc 3 times a day.  I hate all the dishes (when I work we have a nanny that takes care of it) and picking up toys, and general all the manual labor staying home entails.

I'm sure no one loves this part of it, but do you get more used to it?  Do you always hate it?  Did you never feel this way?  The relentlessness of cleaning up the same thing for the nth time that day is making me very eager to get back to work but maybe it just takes awhile to adjust to any major change like this?

I also find it very lonely but I'm assuming I'd make more sahm friends over time and that part would be solved for.

This is in no way a knock on SAHMs - its tough and exhausting!  Working is tough and exhausting!  Everyone with kids is doing a ton of work and both options can be great for parents and their families.[/quote]

I work part time from home (sitter in the mornings) but still cook lunch and dinner and clean with a toddler and am pregnant.  It does get rough.  And lonely.  And exhausting.  But there are parts of my outside job that are drudgery too, and I like the physical aspects of going on walks with my toddler which keeps me in shape despite being hunched over a computer all morning.

What helped me:  I finally learned to cook decently and I only cook food that I love and am excited to eat, which, it turns out, my kid likes too (salmon, broccoli) -at least for now. I also make coffee and lunch dates with my working friends at least once or twice a week and I just bring the kiddo along - we obviously don’t go places that are too fancy.  My house is usually a mess during the day (dishes in the sink) and I don’t feel guilty about that-I wait till kiddo’s  asleep to pick up (which btw means hubby helps too- he helps with dishes and laundry and often does breakfast so not all the housework is on me.)  I leave the house a lot and not just for kid places.  I can think of maybe only three days when we didn’t leave, due to severe weather.  frankly if I had a kid who didn’t do well in public (starbucks, Panera, grocery, etc) I probably couldn’t spend so much time with them. We occasionally go to a kids play zone but only maybe twice a month.

My biggest worry is that my kid is not around other kids enough, and so will be delayed in vocab, colors, numbers and all that.  I tried the toddler classes but found them too boring for me and too much hassle, and I didn’t have much in common with other sahm’s there, I def prefer coffee dates with my current and former coworkers, and they are usually excited to see the kid.  Once or twice we’ve had to bail or just go walk around a bit, of course.

Good luck op, whatever you decide.  [/quote]

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