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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Caring for kids means many different things at different times. In the very early years, it does mean meeting their every need, cleaning up after them, feeding them, napping them, etc. It also means putting a roof over their head and saving for college and having a backup plan if your spouse can't work or divorces, etc. It means researching and getting things that they might need, whether that be clothes and crayons or a trombone and a physical therapist. It means modeling how to be in the world in a healthy and happy way -- how to have boundaries, how to contribute to society, how to realize your own potential.

Children thrive with not ONE sole caregiver but with a group of adults around them who can give them and teach them many things. I don't care if you're a SAHM who home schools -- no one can give a child a whole world by themselves. I think it's pretty clear that different people have different strengths. You can be a great SAHM in the early years who doesn't know how to handle adolescence. You can not like staying at home at first, but have other things to contribute to your kid's lives. There are many ways to be a family. I personally grew up with a SAHM who was very skillful and present as a homemaker and nurturer, but also felt resentful and did not discover her life's purpose. There were certain things she could not model for me that she might have been able to if she had worked and been fulfilled (I say worked, because she was brilliant and very much wanted a career). I have lots of friends who grew up with working moms and are extremely close. Those women were working and also held down the family, created a home environment, managed the rhythms, oversaw their children's education and so much else. I think defining the role of a mother/parent in too-narrow terms is problematic for the children.[/quote]

+1. I kind of said the same thing, didn't see this post.[/quote]

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