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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids are awesome (at least mine are). So glad I have them. But a lot of mothering is drudgery. I would happily give up the drudgery forever and just have the mothering relationship. That is the important part. Not who does the drudgery. [/quote]

^This. My wife and I both goto work and we have a nanny. We are blessed to be able to afford a nanny and everyone is better off this way. Some people are not mentally "built" to handle staying at home all day with the kids. This goes for men AND women. For the people who can stay at home and watch the kids all day, props to you, but I don't see myself as any lesser of a person because it's harder for me. Especially in the first few years, as you said, a lot of mothering is drudgery, and if you can offload some of that headache and spend more time doing enjoyable activities with your kids everyone will be happier and better for it. If there's anything I've learned it's that being a parent has many different "stages." There's the baby/early toddler stage where you're basically a machine, then the child phase, and teenage/adult phase. Some parents are great at the baby stage, but honestly suck at the teenage/adult phase. Teaching your kid things requires a completely different skillset than changing diapers, feeding them milk, etc.

There's been some articles about this that state such. The amount of time spent with children isn't so much the important part, but WHEN you spend time with them, you have "quality time" with them.

The people who come here with the nasty comments of "why did you even have kids" are just the ones who are ignorant and don't understand all the different dynamics and personalities. Maybe one day they will.. until then just laugh it off and ignore them. Haters gonna hate. :)[/quote]

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