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[quote=Anonymous]Yet another? But here, I'll answer honestly.
I worked on and off through the years, and SAH through the years. We have 2 SN kids who had great periods and than very challenging periods. I don't feel guilty at all, zero, minus one. As we moved a lot, kids had to have a stability at home. My parents are in Europe, DH only has a dad,(also in far away state no matter where we moved) mom passed away long ago. Without me staying home, my kids wouldn't have had learning support and constant emotional and loving support I provided. I am happy to report that both are older teens, and while they still have some learning and behavioral issues, they have achieved academically and behaviorally things that their doctors deemed impossible. And I would have done it even if my kids were not SN, most likely. Kids need stability, our moving lifestyle made it often a necessity. I was raised by my grandma, while my parents worked. Yes, in Europe, I am a deviant for my country's standard where mom and all my aunts worked. Where all my female cousins earn more than their DHs and work full time. All of them also had/have their mom and MIL provide that constant care for all of their kids, just like my grandma did with me and my cousins. There is not right and wrong, none of us cousins or my nieces and nephews went to a daycare, and my kids did go to preschool more when I worked. DD loved her preschool, DS was miserable and developed selective mutism. So, yes, I don't' feel guilty at all, and my DH was and is the one who knows how hard it was for me(and for him) that I stayed at home. He knows I like working and that I gave up a lot to be at home as much as I was.[/quote]

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