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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it's not about the table.

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So, when things are calm, there need to be some serious discussions because this arrangement isn't working for anyone in the family.

There are many paths going forward, and many levels of assistance you might choose to give or not give.

I would worry about respect and decency.

[b]a) I suspect there was some violation of privacy when you took the table that you might not fully understand. It might or might not be legit, but you don't know because of the yelling.[/b]
b) The dinner  thing was ridiculous.  You don't walk out once the food is cooked.

I wouldn't let a table/not-really-the-table be the last straw.[/quote]

This was always an issue when I lived in my parents' house. I lived there for a semester after graduating college while waiting for my best friend to finish an extra semester and then we were going to move in together. My parents had no respect for my privacy and thought they could just go through whatever they wanted, like my computer or my bank accounts. I remember I once paid for a subscription to something online with my debit card that my parents' wouldn't have approved of and when they brought it up I felt violated. I realized they had access to my bank account and could see deposits and withdrawals. I went straight to the bank and took them off of the account.  Maybe there was something stored out there with her stuff that she didn't want you to see.

I had met my now husband by that time and he was encouraging me to stay in my parents' house to save up money instead of moving out, but I couldn't live as an adult feeling like I had no privacy so I didn't care how poor I would be--I moved out when my friend finished school. I had very little fun money, but it was 100% worth it to me.

I agree it's not about the table--but maybe this will be the impetus for them to finally move out. If not, start charging for rent and expenses. They can't have everything. [/quote]

This is what I think is going on too.  Does the table have a drawer?  Maybe that's where she stored her weed or condoms or something.[/quote]

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