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[quote=Anonymous]Your friend has the “new school” view of biglaw.  It used to be that people like you would come and stay for as long as they could bc the goals were building up a solid net worth, investments, and living in fancy homes, luxury hotels etc. and they were willing to work long hours for that; in your opinion – why on earth would anyone let that lifestyle slip away?

Yet I’ve been in the industry since 2000 and in the last 18 years, there are many more associates coming in with no desire to be there for more than 2-4 years, no matter what they are paid. And most often they do NOT have family wealth or rich spouses.  They get the firm name on their resume, pay off/pay down their debt to manageable levels, and move on to what they REALLY want to do.  They don’t see the money as enough to keep them from doing what they really want, which in your friend’s case is social justice – no chance that she would ever have gotten 1 single second of that work in biglaw ever.

When you become friends with people when you’re young and in a common setting, you assume that person will turn out to have the same wants as you (similar to the dr. above who made friends with med school friends at 22 only to find much later they look down on his passion for lower paid research and they’re fine working in private practice urology dealing with ED all day bc it affords them the Four Seasons Hawaii 2x/yr).  This friend didn’t turn out like you, and now you can’t fathom why anyone would walk away from a 300k job for a 75k job.  Well your friend isn’t bothered by making only 75k.  Bet you she is totally content living in a prewar Harlem walk up and [gasp] clipping coupons, bringing her lunch to work, and cleaning her own home, while your views is – I went to Harvard (or wherever) and worked long and hard to NOT have to do those things and to be able to pay a cleaning service, splurge on cabs when I don’t feel like walking, buy a $300 coat every time I walk by one in a store window I like, and spend $1500 on a 3 day weekend any time.  Different values.  Neither is right or wrong (frankly I’m more like you), but you have to get that your friend just does NOT care about these things and she’d rather clip coupons if it means her days are spent working with individuals who were discriminated against or whatever. 
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