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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you feel about the fact that you are likely creating a trauma for any kids that result from this "donation"? Any adoption, no matter how loving and secure, is a trauma for the child, knowing that his/her bio parents couldn't or wouldn't take care of him. 
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OP here.

Is this a serious question? Seems kinda troll-like.[/quote]

OP did you research adoption at all before you did this?[/quote]

OP here.

I researched adoption a bit, but only some of the issues overlap with embryo donation. Much of what's out there about baby adoption is somewhat off for this particular type of arrangement.

The agency provides a thorough set of FAQs for both the donors and adopters, and we read all of that info.

Here are two tremendous differences between baby adoption and embryo donation:

1. Our embryos aren't babies.
2. I won't carry the embryo until it becomes a baby.

I imagine that any future child will take heart in knowing that my husband and I didn't place him/her up for adoption. Rather, we're giving embryos a chance at becoming a baby.

I'm truly just a cell donor. The adopting mother will not only raise the child, by gestating a baby she will also create a biological link to the child. New-ish research shows that a gestational mother's DNA influences a baby's genes. Isn't that amazing! [/quote]\

If you truly don't think the embryos are babies, then I'm not sure why you're wading into this ethical quagmire.  At the very least, it seems like you'd go into it with WAY lowered expectations for what kind of contact you'll have with the child.  [/quote]

OP here.

At this point, we expect to only receive annual updates. [b]However, the agency will also be in touch with the adopting family to monitor the child.[/b][/quote]

What? no. That's not how this works.  Neither you nor the agency has any right to "monitor the child."  [/quote]

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The adopting families have agreed to a contract that includes the agency's monitoring provision. It's possible that they won't honor the contract, but I suspect they will, based on my interactions with them so far.[/quote]

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