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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's really tough, OP. Have not had sex with DH for... let me see, eight months now?

He was abused as a child. He has admitted being abused physically and emotionally. My guess is that he was abused sexually too, though he has never acknowledged it. (I am guessing that because he has some weird body image and sexual issues).  He has struggled throughout his life with anger and depression, and his anger and mood swings have been really tough on our marriage. He is finally seeing a therapist and on anti-depressants. This has helped his mod swings, but our sex life, already fraught, is now virtually non-existent.

I am really struggling. I love him and I guess I feel like I can be patient for a while, but I am not sure how long a "while" is or should be. A year, sure. Two? Probably. Three? Maybe. Ten years? Probably not. But I guess for now I am just taking it one day at a time: glad he is finally getting help; hoping eventually this will improve. Will just have to reassess over time.[/quote]

I'm the wife who posted earlier re: being sexually abused.  I can hear your love for your spouse and how you are putting his needs ahead of your own for a time and I think this is really amazing and beautiful (sorry, I know that is cheesy).  I can really get that it might be too hard to go without sex forever and that might not work.  But giving it a few years?  Absolutely.  I really hope your spouse continues to get help and something works out for you both.  Good luck.  Things got better for me and my husband.  It isn't perfect, but it is much better, much more frequent.  And I don't feel like I'm dying inside every time he touches me anymore.[/quote]

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