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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here. Many posters seem to have the idea that medication and therapy/social skills groups will fix ADHD. They do not. They may help mitigate the worst symptoms, but the underlying condition is still there.

Kids with ADHD are often several years behind their peers socially, emotionally, and behaviorally. Many also lag behind on height/weight charts. People with ADHD may act annoying and immature, but people need to understand that it’s not intentional and have some patience. We need to teach our NT kids to be more tolerant. The kids with ADHD may catch up developmentally , but adolescence is an especially hard time for ADHD kids. [/quote]

I have a kid, 10, with ASD/ADHD and he does not behave like an obnoxious brat.  Currently, he is not medicated and he is still not allowed to act like an obnoxious brat.  DS has friends and is like by his peers because he isn't an obnoxious brat.  I don't think other 10/11 yrs old should expected to tolerant obnoxious behavior if the kid being obnoxious has a diagnosis.  ASD and/or ADHD is not an excuse for being an obnoxious brat.[/quote]

If OP's kid isn't on medication for ADHD, he needs to be.  If he is on ADHD medication, the medication needs to be adjusted so that he can better control his impulses.  This behavior is typically due to ADHD impulse control issues.  Your child needs to be seen by a psychiatrist before he has no friends and becomes a target for bullies and suffers low self esteem, no self confidence, etc.[/quote]

Medication might help (maybe), but certainly does not fix. I agree with the PP who said it is HARD parenting a kid with ADHD - [b]and parents who are only dealing with a mild case of inattention just have no clue. They[/b] think other parents aren’t strict enough or just stink at parenting, but that’s really ignorant. It can take years of working with a doctor to find a medication and dose that helps without side effects. Some patients never find that “sweet spot” despite years of trying. Often, what works best is simply age and maturity. Kids with ADHD often find friends who are a few years younger rather than same-age peers.[/quote]

My kid, 10, has ADHD combined type and ASD.  He is wild, hyper like a whirling dervish, and can’t sit still.  Also impulsive and inattentive.  Medication is helpful but he is off for the summer and getting new medication once school starts.  Nevertheless, he is not obnoxious off his meds (he’s internalized all his social skills/pragmatic speech lessons he learned while on his meds) and has friends - same aged and grade ones.

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Why wait until school starts for new meds? It will take weeks to be effective. You don’t know what side effects may occur. By then, he passed the point of first impressions on teachers and peers.[/quote]

Because he functions ok without meds:  isn’t obnoxious and can still do what he needs to do including playing tournament chess at a very high level.  DS also needs to gain weight.

He is going to Auburn in the Fall and they will tell us if he needs to be on meds for his academics.  Their call.  Auburn accepted him without meds:  they liked him not on meds as does everyone else -  DS is much more social and charming not on his medication.  The small class size and social skills/executive functioning embedded into the curriculum maybe enough.  Currently DS is above grade level across the board but needs help with executive functioning and attention/impulse control. [/quote]

Why did you say he was getting new medication in the fall, then?[/quote]

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