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I am 34 and my mom was 28 when she had me and 30 when she had my brother. I always thought they were more or less the same age as all other parents. I had mine at 29 and 31 so [b]my parents are VERY young grandparents[/b] and very involved. So to the PP that was complaining about her parents being old, she is the one that should have had kids younger if she wanted younger grandparents [/quote]

So your mom was 57 when she first became a grandparent?  I wouldn't consider that "VERY young."  Honestly, I wouldn't even consider that "young."

VERY young would be in early 30s (in other words, woman has a baby around age 15-16, and then that child also has their first born around 15-16.)   "Young grand parent" to me would be 40s--woman has baby in her early 20s, and then that child has their first born in their early 20s.   Anything in the 50s seems pretty standard, and 60s+ is getting to be "older grandparent."  In other words, your mom just barely squeaked by in not being an "old grandma."
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I am the PP you are responding to. Absoloutely right. Neither my parents nor I were young when we became parents/grandparents, but by DC and DCUM we are young. Of all the people we know thatbhave kids, my parents are the only ones that are able to care for my kids (since they were babies) full time without help. They spends weeks alone with them in the summer since my kids were 1 and have a huge part in raising them. If I am not wrong (it has been a while and I don’t remember this thread much) I was responding to a poster who wished her mom had her younger (had her at 31 I think) so that now she would be a younger grandmother. I was telling PP that she was the one having kids at 40 so the reason for her kids having an old grandmother was because she had kids older and not because she was born from an older mom.
Anyway, I totally agree that having the first child at 28-29 is really not young, but in DC is very rare from my experience especially for people like my parents and I that Went to medical school or have a PhD. I think it’s all about priorities. I wanted kids early and gave up on my career a bit. Finished my PhD in 6.5 years instead of 5 and have less work experience. Women that wait until late thirties to have kids probably give their careers a heavier weight than I do. We just all need to accept the consequences of our choices. I know I did and I know I made the right choices for ME.[/quote]

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