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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd probably still go, because I wouldn't want to blow up the whole trip for everyone--the trip is too far along and too much money has been sunk into it.  But I also would not make any effort to keep secrets or hide anything from A's spouse.  If I would have otherwise talked about the trip to the spouse, I'm not going to bite my tongue.  I'm not going to hide the fact that B is there.  I'm not going to censor the pictures I post on FB.  And I'm certainly not going to lie for A.[/quote]

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I'm inclined to do this. It's the path of least resistance and probably the most likely course of action. I already know that one of the spouses attending the trip is going to flip the f#ck out when they see what's happening; they are very straight-laced and it's just their personality to directly inquire. They will be very upset to be put in such a situation by Friend A.

I know my spouse will want all the dirt and will basically require me to post on social media 24/7 while overseas. I won't hold back on tagging. It will be interesting to see if Friend A and Newbie B ask all of us to not put them on social media. The whole scenario is just so cavalier and bizarre.[/quote]

This is so incredibly passive aggressive and it also leaves A's H not knowing. So what, there are pictures. Unless they are naked this is not going to have the outcome you wish.

Either you have a moral stance on this or you don't.

Call A and say, B is welcome but if you guys are having an affair I will not enjoy the time at the reunion. If she says "shove it" then she is not your friend.

P.S. If you all go on vacation and don't talk openly about what is going on why are you friend ... and you H will never trust your friends ...EVER. [/quote]

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