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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a friend in your situation. Before you break up your family you owe it to your kids to try getting a job. It may change the power/chores dynamic, and it may also provide you with more $ to outsource. Also, if you divorce you will have to work full time anyway, so try it now.

I SAH for a couple years and basically liked it but my marriage improved when I went back to work. I no longer cared about household stuff the same way, because it was as not as big a part of my life, if that makes sense. [/quote]

This is BS.  I WOHM as does my spouse, and he only remembers to do part of each job so I end up having to do the stuff he constantly forgets.  Ex:  If I ask him to put the wet swim suits in the washer and move the washed clothes to the dryer.  He'll move the clothes to the dryer and forget to wash the wet swim suits.  Later when he asks where the swim suits were, I have to tell him in the bathroom across from the laundry machines (where we always keep wet clothes plus I told him that twice when asking him if he'd do it while I took our kid to sports practice) if the washing machine is already running.

EX2:  if I write him notes (as I leave earlier in the morning) about how to apply the medicine on my son's toe and wrap it in a waterproof tape before camp as he'll be swimming, he leaves the packaging it came in on the kitchen table and I have to either throw it away later or remind him to do it.  Same for wrapping paper.  Somehow it's my job to buy the gifts, wrapping paper, tape and birthday cards.  If I place the wrapping paper on the kitchen table along with the tape, scissors and gift, he'll wrap it, but then leave the wrapping paper out on the table.  AAGGHHH!  It's a huge battle just to get him to return it to the place where we keep the wrapping paper.

We both have jobs outside of the home.  Just b/c OP is a SAHM doesn't mean she's his personal maid, etc.  Taking care of 3 other people including yourself and sometimes your spouse is a hell of a lot.  It's not a 24 hr job people.

I totally get OP's resentment.
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