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Red flags... about you, not them. 
They supported you through a terrible time in your life, OP.
Are you going to ditch them now?

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Of course I am not going to ditch them.  I have been friends with some of them for over 20 years.  I would be really upset to lose their friendship.  When I am asked what I am doing over the 4th, I say nothing.  I am really going to southern Spain.  I have also supported them through a ton of crazy stuff so it isn't all one sided.[/quote]

This post jumped out at me in particular and makes me wonder if it’s not so much jealousy [b]as feeling like they don’t know you anymore. First, you’ve become a liar. [/b]You lie to them about things like travel plans, which at best is alienating and at worst might make them worry about what’s really going on with you that you’re lying about your plans. Further, stuff like traveling to Spain for July 4th might be making them question how much they have in common with you anymore. When I think of July 4th, I think of cookouts and fireworks with friends. It’s not that I couldn't go to Spain instead, it’s that I can do Spain anytime and it’s not particularly my idea of a fun July 4th. If you used to be into similar July 4th celebrations but [b]now have abandoned the fun you used to have with your friends in favor of jet-setting with your boyfriend, they may feel like you just aren’t interested in being with them anymore.[/b][/quote]

This.  You lie to your friends, and you're all into this fun, jet-setting lifestyle that leaves them out.  Maybe there's some jealousy, but there might also be some alienation.  Like, you've jumped into this new relationship and its perks and you're leaving them behind for this guy and all the fun his money can buy.  They might be worried about these changes, or just feel like you're not that into them anymore.  [/quote]

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