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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think this is such a big deal, but I do understand why you're bothered that he didn't just tell you.

And I can actually understand a guy saying something like "i hoped it would just go away" about a topic he doesn't know how to address or deal with.

I think you probably need a conversation to clear the air - to talk about how in the future you would MUCH rather him just tell you whatever awkward or uncomfortable thing he has to share, than to let you just unearth it.

That's an important foundational conversation about how you will communicate in a marriage.  I think that's a lot more important than this particular instance - it seems like he was upfront and honest w/ that other woman as soon as he met you, and has done nothing to encourage any kind of inappopriate contact.  He just didn't know how or if or when to tell you about it.  So he didn't and then it became a thing.  I can kind of sympathize a bit with that action paralysis.[/quote]

+2 all of this, and other PPs who say your reaction is exactly why he didn't tell you. This isn't a big deal. Don't sabotage yourself. [/quote]

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